My Kinda Man

My dream guy: height like Boris Kodjoe, Build like Tyson Beckford, wisdom of Denzel, a smile similar to Simon Baker, and eyes like Michael Ealy. Wishful thinking. That would be a kicker combo of a man though! When choosing a mate, significant other, better half or whatever have you, we tend to be vain and self conscious. With that being said, when being approached by a guy most of us already have made up in our minds if we're even going to interact back and give him a shot, and at this point this only based on what we see while he's approaching. If the approach is right, swagger is on full, and he's has the right finesse (not too much or too little, but just enough) then we bite the bait, and the rest is history. That's usually a typical average woman attracted to an average man scenario.

Unless of course you're attracted to the macho, aggressive type. The man that tells you all about you. The beast in him that intrudes, imposes, and assumes that he's allowed in your space. That highly confidence and arrogance that's just as over powering as his good smelling, panty dropping cologne. In this situation we become submissive prey. There is no denying, because they won't allow it. Rejection is a word, they have very little exposure to. They already have you figured out, which makes it that much easier for you to choose because we expect a man to already know what we expect. BUT (big BUT) to take on this type you have to have a certain type of wit and charm if not equal aggression about yourself to keep up. If you don't possess that "flare" then this man is definitely not for you.

                                         

 Then you have your yes man. The punk, the man with no backbone. Everything is "yes" or whatever you want it to be. He's the pushover and the one that does any and everything to keep you happy. There is no opposition, no challenge, no fight or disagreement. It's whatever you like, and whatever you say. You may as well be in a relationship alone right?! So being that this type of man is so easily controlled, there isn't much involved in keeping him to do things in your favor. The most minor stroke of an ego, smile and a wink. He won't be wrapped around your finger, but tangled. Women appreciate the convenience of this guy because she wont ever have to deal with hearing the word "NO" and she makes all the decisions for both parties. These situations could even go so far as the woman changing the man completely. Transforming and molding him into what she want's him to be. Even down to dictating the way he dresses and cuts his hair

                                             

 

Why can't we say NO to the bad boy? He's complete opposite of what we want, what we like, and what we need. He know's as well as you do that he's no good for you. He can potentially be the best worst thing that happens to you, and can ruin your life in the same token. This is the "Mr. Wrong" Ms. Mary was talking about. Mr. Wrong does everything right though. Touche` touche`. He doesn't play fair, because there are no rules and everything is ALWAYS "cool". That mysterious, adventurous, exciting, living on the edge thrill that we desperately seek out every now and again, lies within the arms of the last place we should be. In that one situation that doesn't help us at all, but it doesn't hurt us either. It actually makes us feel better than OK. This guy is a NO-NO because you have absolutely no control! You've already lost.
                                    

Last but certainly not least. We have the homie, lover, friend, most popular, well liked guy. This man knows your whole family, all your friends and fits perfectly into your space. He has everything that you're attracted to physically. People even say the two of you look good together or would make a great couple. You just can't seem to get over that friend hump. We've all had, have, or will have this situation with this guy, It's inevitable. He'll even consider crossing that friend line, and seeing where the next level takes it. But like you, he's afraid of the weirdness and complication it'll bring. Be careful with this type, feelings aren't the best way to approach the "situation". But you do want to be consistent and a safe distance between whatever it is the two of you have going on.

So many flavors....Not enough space to stomach them all tho! Don't ruin your taste buds and appetite for the main course.

-@Meangirl_ro